A few weeks ago, I saw a post from someone I used to know — a long, emotional rant about how her partner didn’t value her. The comments were filled with sympathy, advice, and even direct attacks on the partner.
I kept scrolling.
But it stuck in my head — not because I was judging her, but because I saw a younger version of myself in that post.
There was a time I wanted to vent like that. Not on social media, maybe, but somewhere — anywhere. Relationships can be messy. You love someone deeply and still, sometimes, you end up on opposite sides of an emotional warzone.
But I never post my fights.
Not on Instagram. Not in cryptic WhatsApp statuses. Not in “subtle” quotes meant to stab the other person emotionally.
And I’ll tell you why.
🧭 The Trading Chart That Changed My Thinking
When I was learning to day trade — and I mean really learning, not just clicking buttons — I made a mistake that cost me big.
It wasn’t because I had a bad strategy. It was because I saw someone post a chart, claiming a breakout in a stock I wasn\’t even tracking. The chart was beautiful — like a textbook setup. I jumped in without my own confirmation, without my levels, without context.
I wanted to feel right.
I ended up being very wrong.
The price reversed hard. SL hit. Loss booked.
That day I wrote one line in my trading journal:
“Don\’t borrow someone else’s conviction to justify your decision.”
It hit me later: That’s exactly what we do when we post emotional fights online.
We borrow strangers\’ validation to feel right in a moment of weakness — and sometimes that ruins something we could’ve fixed with a quiet conversation.
💔 The Temptation to Post When You\’re Hurt
There were moments — real, raw ones — where I felt wronged in my personal relationship. Hurt. Misunderstood.
The easiest thing would’ve been to type out a “subtle” post:
“Loyalty doesn’t mean anything these days.”
Or post a reel with a trending sad song and some emotionally charged caption.
You know what would happen?
- My inbox would blow up: “What happened? Are you okay?”
- Some people would offer comfort. Others would feed my ego: “You deserve better.”
- Some might silently judge both of us.
And none of that would bring clarity or peace.
It would just turn pain into content.
🛑 Privacy Is a Power Position
In trading, I don’t post my live positions. Not because I don’t trust people — but because I trust my process more than anyone else’s opinion.
In relationships, it’s the same.
I protect what matters by keeping the fight inside the room, not on a reel.
If we’re going through something, we talk.
If it’s not working, we walk.
But either way — it’s a two-player game. Not a crowd-sourced drama.
📈 Trading Taught Me This Emotional Rule:
“When you act emotionally, you give up control.”
Every time I hit “post” while angry, I give my mind to the crowd.
Every time I take a trade out of FOMO or revenge, I give my account to chaos.
Real strength — in trading or love — comes from pausing, not reacting.
❤️ If You’ve Ever Been There…
If you\’ve ever posted out of pain, I get it.
It’s human.
But next time — maybe open your journal instead of your Instagram.
Talk to your person instead of the internet.
Choose process over public display.
It won’t get likes, but it might just save your peace — or even your relationship.
And in the long run?
Peace > Performance.
Both in charts and in love.
🌊 When My Own Mind Was on the Edge…
The reason I can talk about emotional control today is because I’ve lived through the exact opposite of it.
There was a time when everything felt like it was falling apart — trades were failing, my relationship was in chaos, and my mind was a storm I couldn\’t quiet.
I didn’t vent on social media.
I didn’t post quotes or rage online.
But I did something else: I read.
Not to escape — but to understand. To hold on. To build myself back, one idea at a time.
If you’ve ever had one of those days…
where your emotions are louder than logic…
where you need something to anchor you…
Here’s what helped me:
👉 What I Read When My Mind Was Breaking
It’s not just a list — it’s the story behind why I turned to words when my world was falling apart.
And maybe… it helps you too.
